I don't think of it as magic. It's just a matter of handling situations. People do what I want, for the most part, because it's easier to accommodate me than to make a scene. I don't present conflict; I am the path of least resistance, smiling and encouraging. Some of it might even be simple mammalian charisma; bright eyes, facial symmetry, and bared teeth.
To the extent that I've gotten away with it, I'm thankful. This year has been an horrorshow for so many people in my life that I don't regret getting a year older to put it behind me.